Abandon reason for madness

There is a huge flaw in human reasoning. If it is kept within your own head only, most likely madness will ensue. For sure, logic will be faulty. The reason for this is that without outside input, your reasoning is a closed loop system that feeds on itself.

When we get input from another person, the reasoning loop is more open and can get feedback, a check and balance to see if you are on the right path or making a mistake. This is also flawed if the one other input is flawed. So, having multiple inputs is best, as long as you can separate out the bad inputs.

In survival training, we can see this dramatically. When all of us were given survival problems to solve, survival scores were very low. When put into teams, one team got a 100% survival on every task, while other teams did just as bad. When you look at the poor teams, they all add strong domineering leaders who do not take the input of others. With open ended teams, you have all of the ideas and input from every team member. If the team members are open-minded, and are oriented on survival of the group over their own egos, the best solution can be arrived at fairly quickly.

To sum it all up, staying locked in your own head is the very worse thing you can do.

To bring this to another level, lets look at love. Love is all about connection and sharing. Many lovers do the opposite, which results in failed relationships. By connecting with your partner on many levels, by sharing your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and actions, and with him doing the same with you, the result for both of you is a higher quality of life and personal growth.

I am a better person and a fuller because of each of my relationships. I grew as a person with each of them. The quality of my life-choices and the quality of my thought processes were improved by their input and presence. Sometimes we may help each other into a quagmire, but if we do, we can help each other out of it.

In this story, the character is using reasoning, but the reasoning is flawed by incorrect assumptions. Holding hands may or may not be dangerous, depending on when, where, and who is around when you do it. I was holding hands with my boyfriend 30 years ago, when it was a hell of a lot more dangerous than it is now. So it is more often a matter of knowing when it is relatively safer to do.

BEWARE of your ASSUMPTIONS, because whenever you get yourself into trouble or make mistakes, most often there is a bad assumption involved.

All of us sexual minorities have to balance fear against desire, and the most fearful time of all is coming-out. But the thing we fear the most is not danger of violence from others, it is the potential loss of love from those who matter the most to us. Most people compromise at first and come-out only to a select few, then add to the list as time goes by, rather that getting on the rooftop with a megaphone to announce it to the world.

To accomplish much of anything in life, to live life to the fullest, to love, and to be a good person, all take COURAGE. When you are trying to find courage, the obstacle of your courage seems like a vast mountain, but once you have overcome your fear, it often then seems like nothing but a tiny molehill.